Sometimes what it takes is a goodbye.
Sometimes what it takes is to just close a door and move ahead. There comes a point where there can be no more talking, where there cannot be more manipulation, where there can be no more hope in what was, and what could be. But there must be a plan and a goal for the future that is separated from what one’s original thought processes were.
Initially it is difficult. But sometimes it has to start with a goodbye.
I have been reflecting a lot on how people say goodbye. Some goodbyes are harder than others. Everyone deals with them differently. They are also harder or easier to deal with based on if the goodbye comes from you or from someone else. Both are very difficult. But if you are the one that is struck with a sudden goodbye from another in whatever form that is the hardest to get over, because you were not able to prepare yourself for what was to come. But you need to move, you need to try your hardest to get past it. Because a goodbye when it is given, it is what it is... it means that something has come to an end and no matter what happens next, something will not be the same.
If you are the one receiving the goodbye, do whatever you can in your power to get over the emotions that come with it. Whether you resort to hate, anger to get over the sadness, your goal needs to be happiness. Do what you must but do not beg, and do not hold onto that glimmer of hope. Deal with what is, because if you hold on to the hope of the past returning, you have a greater chance of disappointment. In this way you are not in expectation but moving on to greater and better things. Easier written than done.
But at least try.
